Iron Sharpens Iron
Thank God for friends who do life with us!
What beautiful friendships I’ve been given with these women who love God, life and one another.
My move to So Cal was such an amazing experience God used in many different ways. As I reflect over those 5 years I’m humbled by how God loved me into a new season of healing, self reflection and most importantly – how he taught me to be happy single!
A few months back I told myself to get busy and blog about all God had done. His grace and life lessons were to be shared in hopes of encouraging others during life’s hard transitions. However, I did not realize my life was about to change in a BIG way. In a flash, and I mean in a flash God orchestrated some events and moved me back to the Bay Area.
Truly, I did not feel I’d ever move back…to live…to start again. It was not in my plan because I had fallen in love with So Cal, my church, the community, new friends and of course the beautiful weather and beaches. It was all so good!
However, what I missed the most about being away from the Bay Area was my precious family. Once again my heart overflows with gratitude for the time God is giving me back to love on the littles, and share in their life in a new way.
As I sit in my new apartment writing this morning there are streams of sunlight peeking in at me, and my heart is touched by God’s gentle reminder of what we all know so well.
“In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps”
Through it all God is faithful to fulfill all his promises and bring us what we need to accomplish all he has for us. So many things…whether it be new friends, new surroundings, or seasons of reflection and learning. May we never doubt God’s perfect plan and strategy in bringing his people to their greater purpose.
My First Last Date
Great things are happening as I step into the New Year! It begins with a new career, great friends, and new opportunities!
But I had one “dilemma” causing me confusion and of course, it was with a man.
In fall of 2015 while in Israel with our church I met a man who I thought would be great for one of my friends. However, I fell for him when he wooed me and captivated my heart!
Our first adventure was Christmas Eve at Disneyland which lead to more adventures. Hikes, sailing, talks and bike rides were only part of it. But after many dates there was one we never shared, dinner at a fancy restaurant.
I knew better than to date a man who’d never been married or in a longterm relationship. (Meaning longer than 5 years) However, ignoring the signs I invested my heart and learned another valuable lesson on dating – don’t settle.
Ladies know what you want so when they don’t you can get out of their way.
Within 6 months of dating he began distancing himself feeling pressured to have to make a decision to move into a more serious relationship or just date. For me, if the relationship wasn’t going anywhere then we needed to be free to date others. Two months later we agreed to end the relationship.
Apparently we missed each other because we connected again last month and had 7 hours in a car where he shared what caused him issues in the relationship. He then admitted he was pulling away in the end. He felt better. I did not.
Had I heard him correctly? Was he asking to start over, slow. I thought that’s what we were doing and it didn’t work! As much as I love a happily ever after story this appeared to be more of an all about him story.
It was two dates later we had our first last date. I got that nice dinner at A’s restaurant in Newport Beach. It felt more like an obligation and not a date as he asked me why we never had dinners like this when we were dating. Really? I could not help but remind him of how he was watching his weight. Not to mention, he never asked.
Was I supposed to be feeling good about where this was going? If so, I was not.
Sometimes we find ourselves waiting on the wrong man. We allow them back in when we know they don’t want the same things out of a relationship. This time it didn’t take me 8 months to see the signs that this relationship was not going to go anywhere.
I appreciate his “slow” offer but I needed to be true to myself. The alarm went off as I realized if expressing my heart puts pressure on a man, then clearly I’m with the wrong man.
Yes, believe in love and don’t force it.
I promise you this, it won’t take you for a short ride, drop you off and park you somewhere. It will leave you secure when sharing your heart, dreams and goals for the future. Wait for it and don’t settle.
Table For One?
Ecclesiastes 4:9 “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor.”
After a 21 year marriage I thought I’d never get used to flying solo. But I did. In the beginning it was not so easy nor comfortable and then there came a day it felt OK. Over the years I’ve learned to embrace it and enjoy it for many different reasons. However, there are days it can be challenging, like when I would like someone to take out the garbage or fill my gas tank!
Now, with all kidding aside the best part of my singleness has been having the time to learn more about myself and grow my faith in God.
Before moving to So Cal a little over 2 years ago the family dynamics were such that I spent more time caring for others than myself. This was not all bad until I began to lose myself along with the dreams tucked away in the secret places of my heart. But then something amazing happened, in spite of the circumstances surrounding me God orchestrated things in my life I never could have on my own and I landed in Newport! Such a beautiful location and one I would’ve not chosen for myself for all of the obvious reasons….mainly feeling unworthy of such beautiful surroundings.
My move to So Cal is one of many blessings and ways God has shown love and care for me. Throughout my successes and failures God remains faithful and I can always count on him to work in my life in spite of my ability to get in his way!
Yes, I get in his way. Lately I’ve been asking myself this question, “Lorna, What blessings have you blocked or put on hold due to your lack of faith and trust in the God you say you love?”
If I’m honest with myself, I can think of plenty of times I’ve blown it and lost out on something good. These past couple of months I’ve felt out of synch in a few different areas of life and most importantly with God. Of course I recognized this by my lack of patience and more so when irritability became my new best friend.
In many of our relationships we find there will be days we have less patience, become weary or irritable. This doesn’t mean we don’t care but it does mean we need to stop and check ourselves because whenever we invest time and energy into anything in life that doesn’t produce the end result we’d hoped for it can leave us out of synch. (Meaning , hurt, frustrated, disallusioned etc.)
So after some much needed R&R I ventured over to Sedona Arizona a place where hearts can heal and our spiritual side is awakened. It is here and alone with God I’ve been able to realign my heart and find rest.
It doesn’t matter how much of life or relationship that gets in the way of what’s important we can always count on, God! His love never changes. No matter how many times we get in his way He always has more blessing waiting for us! More healing! And more life to experience with him!
The last 5 days could not have been planned more perfectly or in a more divine location for what my heart and soul needed at this time.
Have you heard the saying, love will happen when you least expect it. Well I say, God always shows up when you least expect it!
There is so much more to share but I need to go catch my flight home! But for now here is a small example of how God whispers gentle reminders of how he sees and knows our heart and wants to splash us with hope!
My Red Rock Balloon ride offered two balloons and I thought I would be in the one with those who picked me up at 5:30am for this big adventure! Interestingly enough when we got to the site I met a woman who was vacationing on her own as well. We hit it off and we assumed we were on the same balloon ride. However, they called me over and put me in a balloon with none of those who rode over in my van. I was bummed because this group was looking fun! But as we launched into the morning sun with a mild wind brushing against our face I quickly forgot I was alone. There amazing views from 1050 feet up in the air looking over a 12 man basket! As I was quietly thanking God for this trip I heard the young man in front of me ask, “Will you marry me?”
No, he wasn’t asking me! Lol! I mean he was in front of me and exactly an arms length away with his sweet soon to be fiancée. They both serve in the Navy! I looked down and in his hand he held a little white box with a diamond ring that would steal the breath away from any woman. It was exquisite!
Of course she was crying and then I began to cry as I watched them embrace. As I looked out over the Red Rock to give them their moment I was gently reminded of God’s beauty and majestic ways he reminds us of how he hears and he sees us.
When we feel out of synch with life we can always count on God to pull us in close to remind us that all good things come to those who wait.
Until next time!
Thursday Night’s NightCap!
Have you seen the Disney movie “Up”?
This movie came out in 2009 and is one of my faves! If you’ve not seen it then I highly recommend that you do! Yes, I know it’s Disney and why would us adults watch a Disney without the kids? I believe this movie was especially made for adults and then they added some humor for the kids! “smile”
In this movie you will meet Carl and Young Ellie who fall in love and stay in love. They grow old together. They begin their life together with hopes and dreams but then life happens. Before long they discover things break, house repairs are needed, and disappointments are inevitable.
But you know what I love about Carl and Ellie the most is how they love each other in spite of all life throws at them!
The first time I watched this movie I was reminded of how I don’t want to grow old alone. (Not to mention the thought of having to ride up and down the stairs on a motored chair when the day comes where I no longer can walk up and down them!)
But truly this movie pulls at the heartstrings in many ways as Carl and Ellie begin their life adventure as a couple working side-by-side to build a home and a family. Before too long they’re faced with the realities of life that sometimes bring sorrow that so many have experienced. One is that Ellie finds out she is unable to have children. But what they do next is a life lesson for us all! They dream new dreams and plan new adventures. Now use your imagination and go with me on this one! Ellie creates her Adventure Book and the two of them continue on with life making adjustments as they go.
The beauty this animated film displays is we all will struggle at times and we may discover things don’t always end up the way we’d planned. Life goes on and so must we.
Let’s face it, we’ve all experienced what it feels like to deplete our savings and our emotions for the unwelcome emergencies of life!
I look at Carl and Ellie as another couple to leave us and our kids an example of what it looks like to love, work together, and live out “until death do we part.”
And yes, even when Carl was grumpy and life became mundane!
Finally they come to the end and Ellie passes leaving behind her “Adventure Book” which eventually motivates Carl to continue on with life.
I hope you will take the time to watch this sweet and fun movie that reeks of hidden treasure!
Tonight let’s raise our glass to Carl and Ellie! Let’s also toast you and me as we look forward to a future of love that inspires and keeps us committed to going the distance.