The past few months have been a whirlwind of events, holidays and a life changing trip to Israel. In the midst of all the joy and celebration life has availed me I often find myself having to make hard decisions. Such is life! However, I’ve discovered the best part of life is LOVE.
Anyway you want to look at it, we were created to love and be loved. Unfortunately, love doesn’t always mean sunshine and roses!
There have been deep insights uncovered revealing my heart and soul as I’ve learned to let go and let love in. What I’ve discovered is there have been times I’ve loved well, and others, not so well.
As I continue on in life I desire to keep learning and growing in this area so I can give to others what God has so graciously given to me, and that being the unconditional gift of love that was meant to set us free. It’s a love that sometimes feels uncomfortable and other times, too comfortable. It’s a love providing strength and courage while allowing self reflection in hopes of enhancing one’s experience with love. It’s a love exuding forgiveness.
I’ve found one perfect example of this love in the story of John 3:16 and the more I study and stumble in and out of love in this not so merciful and gracious world I discover what matters most is how I reflect that love. No matter where I am, be it in a relationship, the store, the gas station, work, home or with a friend how I love is important. How we love is important. It’s vital to our very soul and the soul of others.
So, I share today a bit of wisdom from a recommended book by a friend, The Seven levels of Intimacy by Matthew Kelly.
“But in order to love you must be free, for to love is to give yourself to someone or something freely, completely, unconditionally, and without reservation. It is as if you could take the very essence of your very self in your hands and give it to another person. Yet to give yourself to another person, to an endeavor, or to God you must first possess your self. This possession of self is freedom. It is a prerequisite for love, and is attained only through discipline…The problem is we don’t want discipline. We want someone else to tell us we can be happy without discipline.”
I highly recommend this book to those in every stage of a relationship as it touches on all levels as well as the dynamics surrounding those levels as you make your way into a deeper and lasting freedom with God and others.
Let me leave you with this thought from page 63:
“With your self in hand, you can choose to freely and completely give yourself to another person in the mystery of love.”